What is the secret to being irresistible to a man? Not just about physical beauty, or how intelligent or “nice” you are, because that’s not always the case.

Here are some do’s and don’t’s when it comes to being irresistible to a man:

WRONG WAY: Keep moving towards him and fill in any and all empty space that you sense between  you. Tell him how much you like him and share all the thoughts and feelings that are racing through your mind.

BETTER WAY: Take time to enjoy the connection  that you’re sharing, and don’t try and rush ahead. Do things that engage him and capture his  interest, and then sit back and let him come to you a bit too. Give him time and space in your interactions to come to you with his feelings.

WRONG WAY: Kill him with kindness by  complimenting him every chance you get, calling him all the time, doing favors for him without him even asking… and generally doing whatever you can to be a special “friend” and companion to him.

BETTER WAY: Think “playful” instead of just nice, as you don’t want to be his friend. Instead, be  unpredictable and intriguing. Create tension and  interest by not always doing or saying the  “obvious” thing. This will keep him thinking and  wondering about you, and get him doing things to get more of your time and attention.

WRONG WAY: Sleep with him in the hopes that by  being close and intimate he’ll realize how much he likes you, how amazing you both are together, and want a relationship. Act and talk to him like you’re already in a serious and committed  relationship, even though you’ve never talked  about it. Get upset when you don’t see that he  wants a relationship after you’re physical with  him.

BETTER WAY: Don’t make the mistake of hoping  that sex will bring him closer to you and set up your relationship. Communicate to a man that  you’re SELECTIVE, and that you respect yourself more than you need a relationship.

Learn everything you need to know about creating not just physical attraction, but a deeper and more lasting emotional level of attraction here: http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/NALA , Author: Christian Carter…

This is my future daughter-in-law, Aoki and my son, Anton. They’re bubbly and they’re going to make a good couple… They love posing for the camera. ~iloveyouboth~

That is sooo sweeeeet!

Another email I’ve got few days ago that I’d like to share with you guys. A dating tips on how to keep the romance going by Marius Panzarella.

A common myth I hear all the time is that passion and attraction always turn into commitment and friendship over time.

I strongly disagree.

After years of experience of working with couples around the world, I can tell you that in every relationship that lasts, there’s always a certain amount of passion and attraction left.

Even though the passion may not be as strong as when the couple first met, there will STILL be attraction…

Without this attraction, a relationship will quickly turn into nothing more but a “friendship. When this happens, the passion will die, the relationship will become hollow, and both parties will be more tempted to look for “fun” outside the relationship.

Here’s what I believe in: The couple that plays is the couple that stays.

It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together with a person, be it months, years, or decades. If you want a healthy relationship, you must NOT become lazy and let the romance die.

With that said, here are a few ways to romance your partner:

1) Have a candlelight dinner.

2) Take her star or moon gazing.

3) Compliment her in front of people.

4) Hug her and kiss her when she comes home.

5) Give her a terrific massage.

6) Surprise her by doing her chores without asking. Use the free time to snuggle.

7) Have a picnic with her.

Flirt with her and be playful.

9) Hug her from behind and kiss her neck when she is not expecting it.

10) Pick up the groceries for a dinner that you can cook together.

I’d like to share this article “The Anti-Player Syndrome” by Marius Panzarella.

After years of helping men becoming more successful with dating, I have noticed a common trend with guys who “suck” at the dating game: They usually have what I call the “Anti-Player Syndrome”.

These guys are guys who try very hard to let women see that they are not players.

They do things such as:

1. Complimenting and sucking up to women
2. Buying women drinks, gifts, and dinners.
3. Saying “sorry” whenever a woman gets mad.
4. Criticizing the players and “jerks” whenever they
   can.
5. Getting jealous of men who are more successful with
   women than they are.
6. Acting like a “nice” guy.

However, they don’t do these things just for the sake of doing them. They do it to PROVE that they are NOT players. They think that by acting the “opposites” of players, women will see the “long-term potential” in them and fall in love.

Whenever I talk to these guys, they always tell me things such as, “Yeah… I want women to know that I AM a good guy for them. I don’t want to think that I am like all the jerks she has dated in the past.”

This is a HUGE mistake.

When it comes to attraction, women don’t really care if you’re a “player” or not.

All they care about is how you can make them feel - both romantically and sexually. They don’t care if you’re “nice” or not - unless they are ALREADY attracted to you. All they care about is what kind of feelings you can give them.

The truth is, a woman could smell a player in a minute and avoid him if she REALLY wanted to. However, many women DO enjoy what they think is “harmless flirting”. They want to talk to someone who can give them the kind of intense feelings they crave.

When a woman sees a player she likes, she doesn’t see him as a player, but rather, as a man who just happens to be good with women. Someone who excites her.

So goes this mean that you should become a player?

No.

Actually, what I want you to do is to stop worrying about what kind of man women think you are. Don’t worry about whether you’re being too much or too little of a player. Instead, focus on doing things that excite women, such as flirting, teasing, and acting like a challenge.

THAT’S what REALLY matters to women. When you can give women the kind of feelings they WANT, they are not going to think about whether you’re a “player” or a “nice guy”. All they’ll think about is how GREAT you are and how much they enjoy going out with you.

It’s our 2nd year anniversary today… and it was my birthday last week.. It’s been a great weekend for me. He sent me a bouquet of fresh flowers and birthday card.

It was Aug. 2006 when I first met my sweetie thru online dating service. Since then we’ve been in constant communication until we became boyfriend and girlfriend.. He came to visit after few months (Jan. 2007) and stayed for 3 weeks then he came back again at the same year and stayed for 3 months (Nov. 2007-Jan 2008). Our relationship has become more serious each day and I feel very strongly for him.

Being in a long distance relationship isn’t easy. It requires very strong trust, commitment and communication. Sometimes, I want to give up. But I’m trying my best to work it out coz from the beginning of our relationship, I know what I want already… and that is to marry this person and to be with him forever…

We planned to get married in Gambia, West Africa next year… but I’m still waiting for my annulment. Hopefully we’ll get it done by next year.. But you know how hard it is here in our country, processing is too slow.. You can never tell how long you’ll gonna wait for the result.

I’m so blessed and thankful for having a man like him.. He is very patient and caring.. In spite of everything he tries to understand me and he is always there for me… so he’s always on his toes trying to help me get through the bad times.

Well, I was supposed to visit him in IOM this year but things went wrong.. In my previous post, I said that I applied for a tourist visa but unfortunately it didn’t work out coz of some.. “FLIMSY reasons”… so my fiancé is coming to visit pretty soon… Weeeeeeh!!! We’ll gonna be together again… I’m super excited already.. I miss him so dearly and I’m so deeply in love with him!

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Ups and downs are part of our life and our relationships. Don’t stop at the first obstacle. Look for another way to do what you want. Be creative, original and insistent. Never give up!

I took this test to find out how strong my relationship with my guy. I’m glad with the result.

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You’ve built the foundation of a great relationship, and it would take a lot to shake it. Through good communication and respect, you have a true love that can last a lifetime.

Today, is our 19th monthsary.. Wish I could celebrate this day with you, I want you to know that I feel so blessed to have you in my life! Thinking of you always… Here’s wishing us… Many more years of togetherness…

Happy love anniversary… Here’s a love poem for you…

I Never Dreamed that Such a Man Existed

I never dreamed that such a man existed,
Much less that he would feel the same for me.
And so this towering wave I’ve not resisted,
Allowing it to sweep me out to sea.
How strange to meet as words flashed on a screen!
Soul-to-soul: no sight or sound or touch.
How strange on such a phantom friend to lean
When the pain of breaking up became too much.
Yet stranger still when love and even passion
Borne by words alone swept up my shore:
Real love, with all the power to refashion
Life in its unending urge for more.
The Web has given us this special grace:
That love might break the bonds of time and space.

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