…Scattered Brain

By Jane Hoskyn

Clothes maketh the man or the woman, and they can make or break your success in the dating game.

It’s not because the world is full of shallow fashionistas. It’s because first impressions are all-powerful, whether we like it or not.

Your clothes make a statement about you. They send a message about your mood, your body image and whether you regard washing and ironing a shirt as a priority. And they can be tribal: think of hooded tops or white stilettos.

Your outfit can also make you feel good or bad about yourself. Clothes have a huge say in your confidence and behaviour – both pretty important in a social situation.

So there’s a lot at stake, but our lucky 13 simple rules will help you get it right.

Rule 1: Be yourself

All our rules matter, but they can be relaxed to accommodate Rule Number One.*

When you dress in a way that clashes with your personality, you don’t feel comfortable. And when you aren’t comfortable, you aren’t confident or relaxed.

Dressing in a way that’s true to yourself will also help attract a lover who’s on your wavelength.

Once you’re seeing someone, don’t change your style just to please them. They’re your lover, not your school uniform supplier.

(* I’d advise against relaxing Rule Two, unless you’re dying to meet someone who’s driven helpless with lust by B.O.)

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What is the secret to being irresistible to a man? Not just about physical beauty, or how intelligent or “nice” you are, because that’s not always the case.

Here are some do’s and don’t’s when it comes to being irresistible to a man:

WRONG WAY: Keep moving towards him and fill in any and all empty space that you sense between  you. Tell him how much you like him and share all the thoughts and feelings that are racing through your mind.

BETTER WAY: Take time to enjoy the connection  that you’re sharing, and don’t try and rush ahead. Do things that engage him and capture his  interest, and then sit back and let him come to you a bit too. Give him time and space in your interactions to come to you with his feelings.

WRONG WAY: Kill him with kindness by  complimenting him every chance you get, calling him all the time, doing favors for him without him even asking… and generally doing whatever you can to be a special “friend” and companion to him.

BETTER WAY: Think “playful” instead of just nice, as you don’t want to be his friend. Instead, be  unpredictable and intriguing. Create tension and  interest by not always doing or saying the  “obvious” thing. This will keep him thinking and  wondering about you, and get him doing things to get more of your time and attention.

WRONG WAY: Sleep with him in the hopes that by  being close and intimate he’ll realize how much he likes you, how amazing you both are together, and want a relationship. Act and talk to him like you’re already in a serious and committed  relationship, even though you’ve never talked  about it. Get upset when you don’t see that he  wants a relationship after you’re physical with  him.

BETTER WAY: Don’t make the mistake of hoping  that sex will bring him closer to you and set up your relationship. Communicate to a man that  you’re SELECTIVE, and that you respect yourself more than you need a relationship.

Learn everything you need to know about creating not just physical attraction, but a deeper and more lasting emotional level of attraction here: http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/NALA , Author: Christian Carter…

That is sooo sweeeeet!

Here are a few tips on how to make sure your home dinner date goes great.

1) Use Foreign Recipes - Try to cook something that a woman/man has probably never
tried before. Invest in a few French or Spanish cookbooks that you put on the coffee table. You can probably get them for around $5-10 each when they are on sale at bookstores.

2) Drink Imported Wine - Imported wine usually only costs a few dollars more  than domestic wine, so there is no reason for you to be “cheap” and buy domestic wine. Go to Wiki.org and read up on the region  of the wine so that you’re sound classy and knowledgeable if a woman/man asks.

3) Clean Your Apartment - Make sure your apartment is very tidy before you invite a woman/man over. Remember to change the sheets and make the bed too!

4) Turn Phones Off - Set your phones to silent if you can. However, do NOT unplug them. If a woman/man needs to make a call and finds out all of your phones have been unplugged, she’s/he’s going to know you’re up to something.

5) Play Some Soft Music - Play some light classical or jazz  music in the background to set the mood.

6) Don’t Start Cooking Until She/He Gets Here - Wait for her to arrive BEFORE you start cooking. Let her/him SEE you preparing a meal for her/him. There’s where half of the romance is.

7) Let Her/Him Help - If she offers to help, then let her chop the vegetables. Flirt with her/him while you cook. Have the recipe memorized so that you don’t have to look at the paper.

Use Candles - Just when dinner is about to begin, say “Wait! I forgot something!” and bring out the candles.

9) Have A Few Romantic Movies Ready - Have a couple of “chick flicks” ready so that
you’ll have an excuse to move to the couch after dinner.

10) Skip The Dishes - Do NOT wash the dishes after dinner. It will be a major distraction. You do NOT want to break the romance!

source: http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/ebook.html

Another email I’ve got few days ago that I’d like to share with you guys. A dating tips on how to keep the romance going by Marius Panzarella.

A common myth I hear all the time is that passion and attraction always turn into commitment and friendship over time.

I strongly disagree.

After years of experience of working with couples around the world, I can tell you that in every relationship that lasts, there’s always a certain amount of passion and attraction left.

Even though the passion may not be as strong as when the couple first met, there will STILL be attraction…

Without this attraction, a relationship will quickly turn into nothing more but a “friendship. When this happens, the passion will die, the relationship will become hollow, and both parties will be more tempted to look for “fun” outside the relationship.

Here’s what I believe in: The couple that plays is the couple that stays.

It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together with a person, be it months, years, or decades. If you want a healthy relationship, you must NOT become lazy and let the romance die.

With that said, here are a few ways to romance your partner:

1) Have a candlelight dinner.

2) Take her star or moon gazing.

3) Compliment her in front of people.

4) Hug her and kiss her when she comes home.

5) Give her a terrific massage.

6) Surprise her by doing her chores without asking. Use the free time to snuggle.

7) Have a picnic with her.

Flirt with her and be playful.

9) Hug her from behind and kiss her neck when she is not expecting it.

10) Pick up the groceries for a dinner that you can cook together.

I’d like to share this article “The Anti-Player Syndrome” by Marius Panzarella.

After years of helping men becoming more successful with dating, I have noticed a common trend with guys who “suck” at the dating game: They usually have what I call the “Anti-Player Syndrome”.

These guys are guys who try very hard to let women see that they are not players.

They do things such as:

1. Complimenting and sucking up to women
2. Buying women drinks, gifts, and dinners.
3. Saying “sorry” whenever a woman gets mad.
4. Criticizing the players and “jerks” whenever they
   can.
5. Getting jealous of men who are more successful with
   women than they are.
6. Acting like a “nice” guy.

However, they don’t do these things just for the sake of doing them. They do it to PROVE that they are NOT players. They think that by acting the “opposites” of players, women will see the “long-term potential” in them and fall in love.

Whenever I talk to these guys, they always tell me things such as, “Yeah… I want women to know that I AM a good guy for them. I don’t want to think that I am like all the jerks she has dated in the past.”

This is a HUGE mistake.

When it comes to attraction, women don’t really care if you’re a “player” or not.

All they care about is how you can make them feel - both romantically and sexually. They don’t care if you’re “nice” or not - unless they are ALREADY attracted to you. All they care about is what kind of feelings you can give them.

The truth is, a woman could smell a player in a minute and avoid him if she REALLY wanted to. However, many women DO enjoy what they think is “harmless flirting”. They want to talk to someone who can give them the kind of intense feelings they crave.

When a woman sees a player she likes, she doesn’t see him as a player, but rather, as a man who just happens to be good with women. Someone who excites her.

So goes this mean that you should become a player?

No.

Actually, what I want you to do is to stop worrying about what kind of man women think you are. Don’t worry about whether you’re being too much or too little of a player. Instead, focus on doing things that excite women, such as flirting, teasing, and acting like a challenge.

THAT’S what REALLY matters to women. When you can give women the kind of feelings they WANT, they are not going to think about whether you’re a “player” or a “nice guy”. All they’ll think about is how GREAT you are and how much they enjoy going out with you.

I would like to share this email I got from Mr. Marius Panzarella, a well known online dating guru who has written extensively on the subject of dating in order to help men all around the world increase their success with women.

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By: Marius Panzarella

Be enthusiastic with your life.

If you look around you, you’ll notice that the people
who are the most attractive and charming are often the people
who are the most enthusiastic with their lives.

As humans, we’re naturally drawn to people with
“high-energy” - people who’re full of life and not afraid to
be passionate.

Passion is sexy - in both men and women.

Think about it. Would you rather date a woman who
talks in a monotone and never wants to go out, or would you
she enjoys in life?

Now…pretend you’re a woman. Would you rather date
a sexy, adventurous man…or would you rather date a

boring geek? Read more…