…Scattered Brain

I would like to share this email I got from Mr. Marius Panzarella, a well known online dating guru who has written extensively on the subject of dating in order to help men all around the world increase their success with women.

I am often asked, “What should I do if my girlfriend
is jealous?”

Well…it depends on HOW jealous she is.

If she’s a normal woman who gets jealous every once in
awhile, then you don’t have too much to worry about. In fact,
it’s good that she DOES gets a bit jealous every now and then.
It shows she still sees you as a stud.

In that case, you can just “defuse” her jealousy by
teasing her playfully . For example, if your girlfriend calls
a woman a bitch after the woman talks to you at a party, just
say something like, “Nah. She’s not a bitch. She just has
good taste. And so do you.” Then give her a kiss.

Problem solved.

But if your girlfriend is one of those women with a
“chronic” jealousy problem, then you’re in trouble.

Never forget that a person’s jealousy usually comes
from insecurity. This is why EVERYONE gets jealous every
once in awhile…because nobody is perfect and we all do have
our own insecurities.

So if a woman is VERY jealous ALL THE TIME, it’s
a sign that she is very insecure…

And guess what?

Insecurity means low self-esteem, and low self-esteem
means BAD CHARACTER.

If you’re a student of the “Smart Dating System”, then
you already know what bad character means…

FIND ANOTHER WOMAN!

I have said this a thousand times and I will say it
again:

Remember that you cannot change a woman’s character.
You have to accept her for who she is BEFORE you enter the
relationship. If you try to play therapist, her attraction
for you is going to drop very fast and you’ll most likely
end up as her “friend”.

In other words, you CANNOT do anything to “help”
her become less jealous. You cannot cure a woman’s jealousy
or insecurity. It’s something that she has to do on her
own.

The other alternative, of course, is to learn to
“tolerate” her jealousy. But let me warn you now: as time
goes on, it will get harder and harder, and you’ll probably
be in for a very rough ride.

You have been warned!

For more “girlfriend management” tips, check out my
“Smart Dating Course” at: http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/ebook.html

Tags: girlfriend, jealousy, low self-esteem